Trying something new can be scary, and sometimes, there’s nothing that anyone can say or do to make those feelings go away.
I have no magic answer that will make all those fears and insecurities go away, but only one piece of advice that has worked incredibly well for me: just jump right in.
Imagine taking your first dive into a cold, icy pool when you’re shivering from the chill morning air. I don’t know about you, but I’d much rather be in my warm bed, snuggled up in my blanket, instead of having to face that container of water that keeps lapping at my toes as I wince with dread. Though I love swimming, I absolutely hate that first contact between my body and the water. Every time. So I do what I normally do: tell myself that it’s going to be okay, close my eyes, dive right in, and keep on swimming until I’ve covered a whole lap without stopping. And when I emerge, it’s as though my fears had never existed in the first place, and I was in the flow of things – quite literally. If I had let my feelings about taking that first leap overpower my love for swimming, then I’d forever be on dry land.
Don’t just go back to bed.
Diving right in is also the best way to learn if this new thing is something you’ll like (even if you’re rubbish at it at first). When an idea is just in our heads, we glorify it a little. We imagine how great something is, only to be disappointed when what we churn out is not that great (which almost always happens when you’re a beginner – we all suck in the beginning, there’s no getting around it). The sooner you get over this thought of wanting to be the best at what you do right off the bat, and ignore damaging ones that tell you that if you’re not good at it then you must not be talented in it, the better. That’s just your brain craving to crawl back to bed, where it’s warm, familiar and safe.
The beautiful thing about doing, is that you also learn something new about yourself along the way. You’ll also get better at what you’re doing. But only, and only if, you like it enough to plod through the hard, difficult stuff, and wade through the feelings of inadequacy that inevitably follows an apprentice. The utter anguish of having to re-do something because if you don’t – even though no one would notice it but you – you can’t live with the thought that you could have done better.
So you do.
You unpick those stitches, and do it all over again.
You start with a new sheet of paper.
You rework that lump of clay.
You do it because your love of the unknown is stronger than the shackles that keep you in place, right where you are.
Add in a bit of time, patience, and some good old fashioned elbow grease, and you’ll soon realise that whatever you’re doing is no longer new.
It’s now a part of you.
The water may be icy cold wherever you are, but there’s no better time to dive right in.
One Reply to “How to overcome the fear of trying something new”
Thanks for this blog post, Amy ✨ something I remembered while reading this was that quote “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” I often struggle with perfectionism, and my brain always thinks I’m about to die when I start doing anything new or uncomfortable. I loved your example about swimming, and remembering what it’s like once you get into the flow 🏊🏼♀️ I need to remind myself that over time the water won’t feel so cold once I jump in ☺️